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4-7-2010, Sip Your Way to a Flat Belly!

There is a potion that magically strips away pounds from your body, improves your overall health, lengthens your life, makes you more attractive to the opposite sex, and keeps you lean forever. Even better, you can have as much of this magic weight-loss potion as you want, for free, and start stripping away pounds—perhaps even several dozen pounds this year alone—without exercise, without dieting, without visiting the set of Nip/Tuck.

What is this magical elixir? It’s water.

Really? Really. You don’t even need to mix in that fancy fat-burning stuff from the vitamin store. In fact, the less you supplement your food and beverage intake, the more weight you’ll lose (and the more money you’ll save). Keep reading this five-point plan from the new book Drink This, Not That! and begin your no diet weight-loss goals today. You’ll sip your way to a flat belly in record time–and keep it well beyond summer.

Step 1: Swear Off the Soda and Iced Tea
(Annual Weight Loss: 18 Pounds!)

The National Health and Nutrition Examination Survey measured where most of our calories come from. Researchers broke up America’s food intake into 143 different categories and discovered, to their horror, that the category making up the largest percentage of our calorie intake—7.1 percent, to be exact—was not a food at all. It was soda. (Vegetables, on the other hand, accounted for only 6.5 percent of our intake. Chicken and fish together only added up to 5.7 percent.) To put that into perspective, if you ate an average of 2,500 calories a day, and you cut 7 percent of your calories, you’d automatically drop down to 2,325, a difference that would save you 1.5 pounds per month. You could be 9 pounds lighter in 6 months by going cold-turkey today! Another thing to remember: You’re far better off eating your vitamins than drinking them. Here are 40 foods with scientifically proven superpowers.

Step 2: Drink 8 Cups of Water Every Day
(Annual Weight Loss: 26 Pounds!)

Yes, the magic elixir really does have amazing powers. In one study, a group of 173 overweight women were put through diet and nutrition training using mainstream diet programs. Researchers then followed them for 10 months, with dietary and body composition being recorded up to 12 months after the classes. All women in the program lost weight, but those drinking more water lost more weight. Drinking more than 1 liter of water per day (nearly 4½ cups) was associated with an extra 5.07 pounds lost in 12 months.

And researchers from the University of Utah found that people who drink the most water have higher metabolisms. In a study, subjects drank 4, 8, or 12 cups of water each day. Those who drank at least 8 cups reported better concentration and higher energy levels, and tests showed that they were burning more calories than the 4-cups-a-day group.

Of course, if you’re looking to lose weight, diet is only half the equation. For the other half, check out our list of the 100 best fitness tips ever written. Your best beach body awaits!

Step 3: Enjoy One, Two, or Even Three Yogurt-Based Smoothies a Day
(Annual Weight Loss: 10 Pounds!)

I love the sound of a cranking blender. But a combination of ice, dairy, and fruit does more than just make a teeth-rattling cacophony in your kitchen. It also helps strip pounds from your body.

There are three simple reasons why: Smoothies take little time to make (so you can quash your hunger pangs quickly), they’re packed with nutrition (especially if you start with Greek yogurt and add berries, whey protein, and some flax), and their thickness takes up a lot of space in your stomach, crowding out the Doritos. In fact, researchers at Purdue University found that people stayed fuller longer when they drank thick drinks than when they drank thin ones, and a study at Penn State found that people who drank yogurt shakes that had been blended until they doubled in volume ate 96 fewer calories a day than those consuming thinner drinks.

And speaking of deceptively unhealthy foods, check our must-know roundup of 30 “Health” Foods That Aren’t. You’ll be shocked to learn how smoothies, salads and veggie wraps–among other seemingly healthful fare–might be sabotaging your weight-loss goals thanks to deceptive marketing practices.

Step 4: Avoid Juice Drinks
(Annual Weight Loss: 19 Pounds!)

Imagine a world in which we called products what they really were: Hungry Man Dinners would be called Lonely Man Dinners. ESPN would be called the Fat Nerds Yap about Jocks Channel. And SunnyD would be called Obesi-D because there’s nothing sunny about a drink marketed to kids that looks and tastes like juice, but is 95 percent water and corn syrup.

While even 100 percent juice has its problems, juice drinks and their ilk are the worse offenders. One 16-ounce bottle of SunnyD Smooth packs a whopping 180 straight-up empty calories and 40 grams of sugar. If you drink one a day, cut it out. You’ll lose 19 pounds in a year!

And SunnyD is just the beginning. See the worst beverages in the supermarket for a complete list of jaw-dropping drinks–and their healthier alternatives.

Step 5: Drink Coffee, Not Coffee Drinks
(Annual Weight Loss: 18 Pounds!)

Researchers studied coffee habits in New York and found that two-thirds of Starbucks’ customers opted for blended coffee drinks over regular brewed coffee or tea. The average caloric impact of the blended drinks was 239 calories. The regular coffee or tea, by comparison, was only 63 calories after factoring in added cream and sugar. So even if you like your coffee sweet and light, you can strip away 176 calories every day, just by making this one swap.

Now, budding mathematicians among you may notice that all this adds up to a whopping 91 pounds lost in a single year. This is not good news if you weigh 125. (However, travel just got a lot cheaper because now you can mail yourself all over the world.) Fact is, unless you’re currently engaging in all of the bad habits above, you probably don’t have 91 pounds to lose.

But this five-point plan illustrates how extraordinarily easy it is to shed extra weight—a lot of weight—just by watching what we drink. And that, my friends, is something worth raising a glass to.

And while I’m on the subject, here are 10 more simple weight loss secrets. Read them now and start melting pounds by tonight.

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9-6-2010, 9 Habits that will shrink your middle

Sick of crunches? So are we. Luckily, abdominal exercises alone do not a flat belly make. In fact, there are loads of little things—from what you drink to the way you handle stress—that can make or break your middle. Here are 9 easy ways to start shrinking without crunching.

1. Calm down. Too much stress can contribute to a potbelly. Stress increases levels of cortisol, a hormone that seems to direct fat to our middle, says Jacob Seidell, PhD, of the National Institute of Public Health in Bilthoven, Netherlands. To keep levels low, try this 5- to 10-minute stress reducer: Find a quiet, comfortable place to sit. Next, take several slow, deep breaths to help clear your mind. Continue breathing deeply and repeat the word one to yourself as you exhale. (If you get distracted, just bring your focus back to the word one.) Practice this for 5 to 10 minutes once or twice a day.

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2. Skip the alcohol for a week or so. That glass of wine with dinner may be part of the reason your jeans are too tight. Alcohol also tends to raise cortisol levels, sending fat to your belly, Seidell says.

3. Stop smoking. “It keeps me thin,” proclaim many smokers. But the truth is that smokers tend to have more abdominal fat than nonsmokers, says Seidell. (The stress hormone cortisol seems to be the culprit here too.) “When people stop smoking, the amount of abdominal fat actually decreases,” he says.

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4. Eat more fiber. Not only is fiber great for overall weight loss (it fills you up so you don’t eat as much), but it also prevents constipation, which can cause your tummy to bulge, says Lawrence J. Cheskin, MD, a gastroenterologist and director of the Johns Hopkins Weight Management Center in Baltimore. To stay regular, aim for 22 to 25 g of fiber a day by eating more whole grains, fruits, and vegetables

5. Drink up. For premenstrual bloating, drink lots and lots of water. This will actually help flush away bloating, not make it worse

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6. Keep bones strong. Osteoporosis can lead to fractured bones in your spine, causing you to slump. That shortens your abdominal cavity, giving your belly no place to go but out, says Willibald Nagler, MD, physiatrist in chief emeritus at the New York Hospital-Cornell Medical Center in New York City. Be sure to get 1,000 mg of calcium every day from the foods you eat and/or from supplements.

7. Get your heart rate up. All the ab exercises in the world won’t do a thing unless you get rid of the fat hiding your abdominal muscles. The best way is to do aerobic exercise for 45 to 60 minutes, 5 times a week.

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8. Tuck your tummy. Imagine there’s a magnet pulling your belly button back toward your spine. Practice the tuck until it becomes comfortable, and soon it will come naturally–like breathing. Do it every chance you get.

9. Get a bonus ab workout. Stand as much as possible when doing weight-lifting exercises. That way your abs work too. “They help to balance and stabilize your body,” says Tammy Strunk, an Emmaus, PA, fitness instructor. Concentrate on keeping your abs tight and maintaining good posture, but don’t hold your breath.

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8-4-2010, 7 Unhealthiest Pasta Dishes in America

7 Unhealthiest Pasta Dishes in America

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By David Zinczenko, with Matt Goulding – Posted on Thu, Apr 08, 2010, 3:54 pm PDT

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“I’m so confused,” my friend Tania said recently. “Ten years ago I ate pasta all the time, because it was low-fat. Then five years ago I stopped eating pasta altogether, because it’s high carb. Now they’re saying pasta is actually good for me—again! What’s the deal? Penne for your thoughts!”

I sympathized with her confusion. After all, the world is filled with diet “gurus” who want to seize on this study or that one and make absurd rules about what you should “never” eat or “always” eat. And no food has been so praised and demonized as pasta. (Remember “carbo-loading”?)

Fact is, pasta delivers a nice dose of quick energy for relatively few calories, and packs a bit of vitamins, minerals and fiber as well—especially if you opt for whole-wheat varieties. (Barilla has introduced a line of whole-wheat pastas that taste just like regular pasta—check them out.) But the humble stalk of spaghetti is neither a blessing nor a curse—it’s a tool. Indeed, the best way to think of pasta is as a delivery system for other foods, be they good (think antioxidant-packed marinara sauce) or evil (fat-loaded carbonara). And that means a pasta-heavy diet could lead to a healthier you—or just a heavier you.

Our motto at Eat This, Not That! is that you can eat what you want and still lose weight—without dieting—by making smart food swaps no matter where you are. And that can be said about pasta dishes, as well—you just need to be aware of which platters fall within the realm of nutritional normalcy, and which ones are egregious mounds of calories and carbs. Below, see the seven worst pasta dishes in America—and what you should eat instead!

#7: Worst “Healthy” Pasta
Olive Garden Garlic Herb Chicken con Broccoli
960 calories
41 g fat (18 g saturated)
2,180 mg sodium
The flavor and fat both come from the garlic-infused cream sauce–which gives this dish a full day’s worth of saturated fat and sodium! Fact is, any time you order a meat that comes with white sauce, you can cut hundreds of calories by asking to have it prepared with nutrient-rich marinara instead. Ultimately, sauce is what’ll make or break your pasta dish. Take the Venetian Apricot Chicken, for example. The apricot-citrus sauce covering the chicken is broth-based, which makes it more akin to soup than the oily concoctions you’re used to.
Bonus tip: As this plate proves, not all chicken dishes are healthy. See this eye-popping list of The 30 Worst Chicken Dishes in America for more outrageous examples.
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Venetian Apricot Chicken
380 calories
4 g fat (1.5 g saturated)
1,420 mg sodium

#6: Worst Tortellini
Fazoli’s Tortellini Robusto
1,020 calories
50 g fat (28 g saturated, 0.5 g trans)
2,580 mg sodium
This meal relies on sausage, cream, and two cheeses to eat through half a day’s calories, 1 day’s sodium, and 1½ days’ worth of saturated fat. The only “oven baked” pasta from this chain that doesn’t have more than 700 calories is the Baked Spaghetti without meatballs. Steer clear of all else.
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Baked Spaghetti (without meatballs)
640 calories
22 g fat (12 g saturated, 0.5 g trans)
1,340 mg sodium
#5: Worst Lasagna
Carrabba’s Lasagne
1,360 calories
Carrabba’s has a closed-door policy when it comes to the sources of the calories in their foods. We’ll keep pushing for nutritional disclosure. If and when they open that door, expect to be shocked by how much fat is in this cheese-layered brick of beef and noodles. We predict it’s at least two days’ worth of saturated fat and sodium. Yuck.
Bonus tip: The 2,500-calorie appetizer. The 1,800-calorie kid’s meal. The 960-calorie slice of pizza. The 2,000-calorie drink. Those are just a few of the dietary disasters to avoid on our list of The 20 Worst Restaurant Foods in America. (Sign up to follow me on Twitter. I’ll let you know when I come across new gut-busting dishes, so you can run the other way!)
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Manicotti
640 calories

#4: Worst Cajun Pasta
T.G.I. Friday’s Cajun Shrimp & Chicken Pasta
1,420 calories
The “Cajun” flavoring here is actually seasoned butter, and the sauce is cream-and-cheese-infused Alfredo. That makes this the absolute worst pasta dish on the menu, and among the worst in the country. On the flipside, while we normally advocate against the mighty Alfredo, Friday’s Blackened Chicken Alfredo is the lightest Alfredo dish we’ve ever seen. Only two pasta plates on T.G.I. Friday’s menu have fewer than 900 calories—this one and the Garlic Chicken Primavera, which rings in at 560 calories.
Bonus tip: Not even the sandwiches at Friday’s are safe from caloric distortion. See The 30 Worst Sandwiches in America for a lineup of jaw-dropping examples. Then make the smarter choice a couple of times a week and strip away the belly fat fast!
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Blackened Chicken Alfredo
610 calories

#3: Worst Bread Bowl Pasta
Domino’s Chicken Carbonara Breadbowl Pasta
1,480 calories
56 g fat (24 g saturated, 1 g trans)
2,280 mg sodium
188 g carbohydrates
This tops our list of “Dumbest Ideas in Restaurant History.” The bowl itself—before you fill in the pasta—carries 840 calories and a third of your day’s saturated fat. When eating at Domino’s, stick to what they do best—pizza. Anything else and you’re messing with a carbohydrate and caloric conundrum of epic proportions.
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Thin-Crust Ham and Pineapple Pizza (medium, 3 slices)
465 calories
21 g fat (7.5 g saturated)
720 mg sodium

#2: Worst Kids’ Pasta
Cheesecake Factory Kid’s Pasta with Alfredo Sauce
1,803 calories
87 g saturated fat
876 mg sodium
70 g carbohydrates
It’s bad enough to stick this much fat into an adult-size meal, but for a child? That ought to be deemed criminally negligent. This cream- and cheese-infused pasta bowl is bloated with–are you ready for this?– MORE SATURATED FAT THAN AN ADULT SHOULD EAT IN FOUR DAYS, and more calories than you’d find in 40 Chicken McNuggets.
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Kid’s Pasta with Butter and Parmesan
510 calories
8 g saturated fat
198 mg sodium
70 g carbohydrates

#1: The Worst Pasta Dish in America
Cheesecake Factory Bistro Shrimp Pasta
2,819 calories
77 g saturated fat
1,008 mg sodium
184 g carbohydrates
How would you feel is someone asked you to eat three full orders of Fettuccine Alfredo and three bread sticks from Fazoli’s? Or how about three Big Macs and three orders of fries from McDonald’s? Or 14 Original Doughnuts from Krispy Kreme? It’s ludicrous, for sure, but the truth is that any of these options would actually save you calories over this horrendous glut of oil and cream from the Cheesecake Factory. It has four days’ worth of saturated fat and a day and a half of calories–and that’s before you get to appetizers, sides, drinks and dessert!
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Pasta Marinara (Lunch portion)
697 calories
1 g saturated fat
617 mg sodium
110 g carbohydrates
Have your own candidates for best and worst pasta dishes in America, or other nutrition tips? Please share them with the rest of us here!
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26-4-2010, Bad habits can age you by 12 years, study suggests

Bad habits can age you by 12 years, study suggests Associated Press By LINDSEY TANNER, AP Medical Writer – Mon Apr 26, 6:26 PM PDT CHICAGO – Four common bad habits combined — smoking, drinking too much, inactivity and poor diet — can age you by 12 years, sobering new research suggests. Deepak Chopra on Keeping Your Kids off Drugs Related Articles * UK campaign gaffe: Brown calls voter a bigot (AP) * Unhealthy behaviors cut 12 years off life: study (AFP) * Deepak Chopra on Keeping Your Kids off Drugs All Related Articles » addiction HOME » Related Topics * Depression * Mental Health * Stress Did you find this helpful? Rate this story: Sign in to rate! Sign in to rate! thumbs up thumbs down 88% of users found this article helpful. [AP Photo/Carolyn Kaster, File] FILE – In this Tuesday, June 3, 2008 file photo, an employee takes a drag on a cigarette at Morgan’s Place bar and restaurant in Harrisburg, Pa. Four common bad habits combined — smoking, drinking too much, inactivity and poor diet — can age you by 12 years, sobering new research suggests. (AP Photo/Carolyn Kaster, File) The findings are from a study that tracked nearly 5,000 British adults for 20 years, and they highlight yet another reason to adopt a healthier lifestyle. Overall, 314 people studied had all four unhealthy behaviors. Among them, 91 died during the study, or 29 percent. Among the 387 healthiest people with none of the four habits, only 32 died, or about 8 percent. The risky behaviors were: smoking tobacco; downing more than three alcoholic drinks per day for men and more than two daily for women; getting less than two hours of physical activity per week; and eating fruits and vegetables fewer than three times daily. These habits combined substantially increased the risk of death and made people who engaged in them seem 12 years older than people in the healthiest group, said lead researcher Elisabeth Kvaavik of the University of Oslo. The study appears in Monday’s Archives of Internal Medicine. The healthiest group included never-smokers and those who had quit; teetotalers, women who had fewer than two drinks daily and men who had fewer than three; those who got at least two hours of physical activity weekly; and those who ate fruits and vegetables at least three times daily. “You don’t need to be extreme” to be in the healthy category, Kvaavik said. “These behaviors add up, so together it’s quite good. It should be possible for most people to manage to do it.” For example, one carrot, one apple and a glass of orange juice would suffice for the fruit and vegetable cutoffs in the study, Kvaavik said, noting that the amounts are pretty modest and less strict than many guidelines. The U.S. government generally recommends at least 4 cups of fruits or vegetables daily for adults, depending on age and activity level; and about 2 1/2 hours of exercise weekly. Study participants were 4,886 British adults aged 18 and older, or 44 years old on average. They were randomly selected from participants in a separate nationwide British health survey. Study subjects were asked about various lifestyle habits only once, a potential limitation, but Kvaavik said those habits tend to be fairly stable in adulthood. Death certificates were checked for the next 20 years. The most common causes of death included heart disease and cancer, both related to unhealthy lifestyles. Kvaavik said her results are applicable to other westernized nations including the United States. June Stevens, a University of North Carolina public health researcher, said the results are in line with previous studies that examined the combined effects of health-related habits on longevity. The findings don’t mean that everyone who maintains a healthy lifestyle will live longer than those who don’t, but it will increase the odds, Stevens said. ___ On the Net: Archives: http://www.archinternmed.com

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29-3-2010, Dating 101: Is He Mr. Right?

Dating 101: Is He Mr. Right?

5 essential traits to look for

By dating expert Lisa Steadman Photo: Getty Images

Updated: Mar 23, 2010

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Think your Mr. Next has the potential to be Mr. Right? Before you leap without looking, take an honest inventory. See how many of the following five essential traits he possesses.

Dating Trait #1: He listens to you

The best way to know if Mr. Next is interested in (and worthyof) being a candidate for Mr. Right? He listens to you. You’ll know he’s listening when he shows genuine concern, consistently remembers things you’ve told him (your birthday, favorite food, best friend’s name, etc.), and offers emotional support in honest and thoughtful ways.

Dating Trait #2: He connects with you easily

We’ve all been in those relationships that take W-O-R-K (and suck the life force out of us in the process). When a relationship works on its own, it feels effortless, easy, and fluid. You don’t have to force anything, forgive anyone, or turn a blind eye to red flags or gut-twisters. Instead, you communicate and collaborate with comfort, compatibility, and undeniable chemistry. If and when you experience this kind of interaction, you are on to something really special.

Dating Trait #3: He wants the real you

So often, women feel the need to sacrifice some part of themselves to make a relationship work. In the right relationship, there’s no need. You don’t have to hide, tone down, or apologize for any aspect of you or your fabulous life. With the right partner, you’re not only able to be yourself, but you’re better able to be the best version of your most authentic self — no compromises needed.

Dating Trait #4: He’s trustworthy

“A relationship without trust is doomed from the start.”

A relationship without trust is doomed from the start. But a relationship with abundant trust? A fabulous foundation for real and lasting love! Built over time, trust is based on the simple belief system that your partner has your best interests at heart and will never intentionally hurt you (and vice versa). If and when you discover that Mr. Next is 100 percent trustworthy, you’ll have no trouble giving your heart to him. In return, he’ll most likely give you his heart and pave the way for a lasting, loving relationship to unfold.

Dating Trait #5: He enriches your life

In the wrong relationship, your partner tears you to emotional shreds, brings you down, and in general drains your energy. In the right relationship, he enriches your life, inspires you to be your best self, and brings a sense of peace and possibility to you. You’ll know Mr. Next is enriching your life if and when he encourages and supports you professionally, personally, and spiritually. And when he does, he may just be Mr. Right!
Does your Mr. Next possess all five qualities? If so, congratulations! You have done your homework, chosen wisely, and are now well positioned for relationship success.
If not, pick yourself up, dust yourself off, and get back into the dating pool with a clearer understanding of who you want to date. Remember, finding your life partner isn’t always easy, but by being clear, honoring yourself, and acting accordingly, you’ll cut down on wasted time with Mr. Wrong and Mr. Next, and ultimately make room for Mr. Right.

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Lisa Steadman, internationally known as The Relationship Journalist, is the author of “It’s a Breakup, Not a Breakdown: Get over the big one and change your life — for good! and “If He’s Not The One, Who Is?.” Additionally, her e-book “Bad Love No More: How to kick limiting relationship beliefs to the curb and say yes to real and lasting love” is now available at BadLoveNoMore.com.
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